When you think of Alexis Haines (née Niers), one infamous image probably comes to mind. It’s from 2010, when she starred on the short-lived E! Reality show “Pretty Wild.” With a flow of mascara on her face, she leaves a hysterical voicemail to Vanity Fair reporter Nancy Jo Sales, who wrote a less-than-flattering story about her involvement in the Bling Ring, with one obvious complaint: She wasn’t actually wearing six-inch Louboutin heels on the court.
They were actually “four inch little brown babe shoes”.
While that image – which launched a thousand memes – may be held in the minds of viewers, who not only followed bling ring test But also sawpretty wildNow, the former TV personality spends her mornings praying and meditating and watering her garden while her dogs play in the backyard. When she lives with her two daughters, Harper, 9, And Dakota, 6, isn’t taking care of her, she’s taking an alcoholic to an AA meeting and taking calls from her sponsors and other women in recovery for the rest of the day. In fact, it’s quite wild.
Had it been two years ago, Hans might not have been calling, let alone zooming. But she’s currently revisiting the colorful past, thanks to “The Real Bling Ring: Hollywood Heist,” a three-part Netflix documentary where Haines and Bling Ring member Nick Pruggo stole a 2008-2009 string of Hollywood burglaries. Tell your side of the story around. , After a long day of press coziness in the streamer’s Los Angeles office, Haines has traded in most of her glam for a dark brown sweatsuit, only the remainder of the relentless day — and her Hollywood past — in her swanky hair, Smoky eyes and shiny nails.
Over the years, Haines has attempted to distance himself from the bling ring. So what made her decide to participate in a buzzy documentary about it? Director Miles Bladen-Ryall’s nuanced approach to storytelling, Haynes says.
“A few years ago, I just wished that my name and bling ring would no longer be associated because I felt like I had done too much with my life,” she sighs. “And the longer I’ve been sober, I’ve realized that we don’t heal from our recovery or taking away our story, we all own the messy, complicated parts that often make it truly magical,” she gestures. As if she was doing magic of the wind.
Beyond recounting how a group of teenagers were able to steal from the homes of celebrities like Orlando Bloom, Paris Hilton and Rachel Bilson, the documentary tackles the motivations behind breaking into these homes: not justifying it, Not pardoning it, but in reference to the bling ring. Happened in first place.
For Haines in particular, it was much deeper than stealing from celebrities. “If it was about getting stuff I wouldn’t have robbed Orlando Bloom’s house, I would be in Audrina Patridge,” she laughs.
The 31-year-old’s part in the bling ring stemmed from her addiction, which was a way for her to hide her trauma from abuse. “My story is one that involves incest, childhood sexual abuse, rape, and it started when I was 4 and went on till about 8 years old. I was also abused by my father’s girlfriends and babysitters And when I was 17 by a really powerful person in Hollywood,” she recalls. Haynes needed money to help him cope, to fuel his drug use. “Addiction doesn’t happen in a vacuum,” she insists. “You just don’t to become A heroin addict. ,
But the documentary sees Haines taking accountability in a way he probably hasn’t in the past—something that he thinks will surprise Prugo as well. She was finally ready to speak her truth, and she wanted closure for the victims.
“I think Nick probably expected me to come in and deny everything like I was for 10 years. I don’t think it was me going, ‘Yeah, I robbed Orlando Bloom’s house.’ He could be really surprised by me owning all that I stole and taking responsibility,” she says.
And Haines has worked to get there: She’s been clean and sober for 11 years now. “The Bling Ring was a Big That’s part of why I sobered up,” she admits. That’s why she doesn’t mind being associated with her name anymore. But she has a caveat: She wants her to be in the addiction and mental health realms. Recognize what works – not for yourself, but because people will have important conversations that can help others heal.
For more than a decade, she has tried to spend her life in service, both as a doula and helping others recover. She has also shared a lot about her personal life, from the intricacies of her marriage to parenting, to reflecting on her teenage years on her podcast, “Recovered from reality.”
Plus, her social media presence has grown; She has become what can only be described as a wellness-meets-sexiness influencer. She says the trust she has built with her online community comes from her own “authenticity and vulnerability.” “I can’t tell you the amount of messages I’ve received from people who now share with me their stories of child sexual abuse, rape, drug addiction, surviving self-defense or their complicated trauma because my choices are as vulnerable as I am, “She shows.
But she, too, finds herself frustrated over the years, wanting to share those conversations at large. around 2014 he started write a column for vice president And it looked like he might get the opportunity. “I wanted to go across America, talk to addicts and hear their stories,” she recalls. But a TV episode she filmed for a media company in which she spoke with someone who was prostitution herself for drugs never aired — and since then, Haines has tried countless times. That to pitch what is an essential show about recovery, no. Take advantage
“I’ve sat in the chief executive’s offices at CBS,” she says. “I had a show idea that I pitched that was like ‘Anthony Bourdain: Parts Unknown,’ but about drugs, and I would host it.” She compares her proposed approach to A&E’s long-running reality series “Intervention”. “‘Intervention’ is just watching addicts load up, and then their families yell at them, they feel like s-, and they feel compelled to go to treatment, but they never achieved sobriety. ,” she explains. “its So Much more complex and nuanced than that. ,
Meanwhile, she’s used her online presence to reintroduce herself to the wider public – including parts of herself she’s never shared so widely before. Last year, Haines revealed that she and her husband, Evan Haines, were opening their marriage and that she was gay. “My sexual identity was something that should be respected and explored at that point in my life,” she insists.
During that journey of self-discovery, he posted photos of his girlfriend(s) and partners, answered unwanted questions about the status of his marriage with grace, educated followers and trolled non-monogamous alike. and showed how seamlessly his companions fit into his family. When Haynes revealed that she and her husband had separated by December 2021, she endured comments about how her decision to open their marriage contributed to the end of the relationship. (Hains is placing the reason for his split between them.) “It is Tough Being a single mom,” her voice crackles. “its Tough rebuild your life. ,
Still, Haynes seems to be enjoying how grateful he is. She has a boyfriend who is a supportive partner, and she is considering a new job opportunity, working for a friend’s recovery center in Portland. And she has everything she could ever want: a small land house and a garden in the backyard where she plays music all day. Maybe one day, she says, she’ll have a big backyard with some goats and chickens, but for now, she’s at peace. “My life is great, I don’t care what happens next,” she smiles. “When you get a second chance like this, the rest is just on the cake.”