Mother asks if she should date her ‘extremely morbidly obese’ friend of 10 years because she likes his company and ‘actually wants to kiss him’ when she’s drunk – but is slammed for treating him as a ‘consolation prize’

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  • UK’s unnamed mother says friend has ‘crazy family’ and is a ‘workaholic’
  • She asked if it was ‘unfair’ for her to try to pursue the relationship?
  • Many branded mothers as ‘unfair’ and urged him not to treat them as ‘consolation prizes’.

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A woman who asked whether dating her ‘extremely morbidly obese’ friend was a ‘terrible idea’ has been slammed for treating her like a ‘consolation prize’.

UK’s unnamed mother, taken mumsnet To ask if it’s inappropriate considering her relationship with her friend of ten years, who weighs more than 31, only wants to kiss her drunk.

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She said that while her friend is a ‘kind’ – she thinks her family is ‘crazy’, doesn’t find her body attractive, and believes she is using her weight and busy work life to ‘make people’ To keep away.

Several users criticized the mom for playing with her friend’s feelings, accusing her of “playing with her” and saying it’s “not fair” to date someone you’re not attracted to.

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A woman who asked if dating her ‘extremely morbidly obese’ friend was a ‘terrible idea’ has been reprimanded for treating it like a ‘consolation prize’. stock image

She wrote: ‘I have known a man for almost 10 years, with whom I have become a better friend in the past year and a half’

‘As far as I can tell, he is a very kind person and I love spending time with him.

‘He is extremely morbidly obese. He also seems to have a crazy family and I believe his father can forcefully control. (All his siblings have moved abroad from their parents, but they seem kinda on a wire). And he is probably a workaholic.’

She further added that she feels ‘comfortable to spend time with him’ and also wants to kiss him – but only ‘when we have a lot to drink’.

The mother continued: ‘But I worry about his health, I don’t find his body attractive, and I worry that maybe he uses his fat and his work to keep people away.’

UK's unnamed mother took to mumsnet to ask if it was inappropriate considering her relationship with her friend of ten years, whom she only wanted to kiss while intoxicated

UK’s unnamed mother took to mumsnet to ask if it was inappropriate considering her relationship with her friend of ten years, whom she only wanted to kiss while intoxicated

The mother said that she was earlier thinking of dating her friend, but was put off after seeing his stomach sticking out from under his shirt.

The mother said that she was earlier thinking of dating her friend, but was put off after seeing his stomach sticking out from under his shirt.

Mom was sure her friend would be interested in dating her, and asked other users if it would be inappropriate to pursue the relationship.

She wrote, ‘I left my abusive ex two years ago and am probably single, but I am stronger than ever’.

‘We were texting back and forth today and yesterday, and something broke in me. He is on vacation and I thought about how much I would like to be with him.

‘Is it a terrible idea to date someone who seems like a good personality match, but who probably has unresolved issues that drive them to not take care of their body?’

Several users criticized the mom for playing with her friend's feelings, accusing her of

Several users criticized the mom for playing with her friend’s feelings, accusing her of “playing with her” and saying it’s “not fair” to date someone you’re not attracted to.

She said earlier this year that she was “going to be positive” about the idea of ​​dating her friend. But then they met for a walk and he saw his stomach sticking out from under his shirt.

“I felt a strange burning feeling that he could let himself be in this state and we would meet someone like this in public,” she said. ‘I think it’s just one more proof that I should let him go.’

Several users criticized the mother and accused her of ‘fat shaming’ her friend because of her weight.

Asking: ‘If you don’t find him attractive, why would you date him? Have you ever wanted to kiss her while being quiet? It sounds like he’s just a good friend you love to spend time with. It doesn’t need to be any more.’

‘Leave him alone. Don’t mess with him. This is not fair’, wrote another.

A third wrote: ‘Don’t date someone you’re not attracted to! You seem lonely, and it’s okay to be close friends and spend more time together. But you shouldn’t date him just because you are single and he is there. It is not fair to either of you.’

Some commentators said that the mother should not overthink things, but rather let things take their course and see if the romance develops.

Some commentators said that the mother should not overthink things, but rather let things take their course and see if the romance develops.

‘If you’ve only ‘likely felt attracted to him’, then you really shouldn’t be dating him. It really won’t end well’, said another.

‘You feel like you’re doing him a favor by going out with him by ignoring all his flaws. This is not a good position to start from.’

However, a handful of people took a different approach and suggested not to label things, but to see if a romance could develop.

Other commenters spoke about their own experiences and warned that dating someone you don't find attractive is not good.

Other commenters spoke about their own experiences and warned that dating someone you don’t find attractive is not good.

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