Protective new mum reveals her VERY strict set of rules for first-time visitors-including sending photographic proof of Covid test, a ban on second-hand gifts and a ‘reasonable request’ not to kiss the baby

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  • Lola Jimenez separated from COVID before giving birth to her son Daniel in August
  • The new mum isn’t taking any risks with the visitors and has put together a strict list.
  • This includes not smoking for at least an hour before coming to see Danielle.
  • Lola cannot allow visitors to hold her baby and is forbidden to kiss her

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A new mother has shared a list of rules she has sent to family and friends who want to visit her newborn son in the wake of the coronavirus pandemic.

Lola Jimenez, 33, of London, warned them that they would be guests that they would have to comply with their wishes, or they would be asked to leave immediately.

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The mother, who welcomed her first son Daniel in August, entered a period of isolation due to Covid to protect both herself and her unborn child.

Lola, a single parent who conceived their son through a sperm donor, and who admits she’s been desperate to have a baby for years, says she’s not taking any risks with Daniel’s health. was not ready for

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She shared her nine bans on her Instagram page, where she has 9,082 followers, and sent them via text to friends and family — and she admitted she didn’t get many replies.

33-year-old Lola Jimenez from London with baby Daniel. The new mother warns her visiting guests that they must obey her wishes, or they will be asked to leave immediately.

Lola with her baby.  She says she found jokes and some support, but has not had any visitors yet.

Lola with her baby. She says she found jokes and some support, but has not had any visitors yet.

Lola’s strict rules for visitors: don’t look drunk, take off your coats and don’t assume you’ll catch the baby!

1. We will not accept general visitors outside of our immediate support network for the first few weeks after you come home.

2. When we begin to have visitors, we will need to remove shoes, outerwear (eg jackets, hoodies) and wash our hands with soap and sanitizer.

3. If we have said that it is ok for you to travel, we would like you to take the lateral flow test that day and send a photo to show that it is negative. It goes without saying that if you test positive or if you feel unwell at all, you will need to reschedule your visit.

4. Our new home is a non-smoking home, and we also ask that visitors not smoke (even outside) for the entire duration of their visit and for at least one hour before arrival. (You won’t be allowed to hold the baby if it smells like smoke, and don’t be surprised because you may be asked to leave).

5. Please do not show up drunk to meet the child. You will not be allowed inside.

6. Please don’t assume that just because you have been invited to visit you will get a chance to hold the baby. It is highly unlikely that I would want to move him around until he is older and his immune system is stronger.

7. If you’re lucky enough to get a few hugs on your trip, please don’t kiss the baby. Until he is older, there will be no kissing, and even then no one is going to kiss his face, arms or legs. This is for everyone and there will be no exceptions to this request.

8. We don’t require guests to buy us gifts, but if you want to bring gifts please don’t buy old stuff (we’d like you to only bring your own!)

We are not averse to hand-me-downs and we have already received so many lovely nice things from our friends/family, but only mom decides where we accept worn or used items.

9. In the end, mother knows best. If the mother says no, asks for her baby back, or wants to drop off guests for any reason, please do so without hesitation.

I know there are a lot of requests here, but I think they are all very reasonable and easy to follow.

None of the above is up for debate, and so please don’t ask to come if you’re not sure you can comfortably follow these instructions.

If you think you can, we’re really excited to meet you all when the time is right! Lots of love, Lola and Baby Dee (bump!)

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Lola said: ‘I decided not to have the Covid vaccine during pregnancy, and so Danielle had no immunity.

‘Because of all the talk of another wave and the kids going back to school at the time Daniels was due, I thought it was the best way to keep her safe for the sake of banning.

‘My main objective was to protect my child and not have any awkward conversations in person.

‘Even pre-Covid I’ve seen friends and family in uncomfortable situations where they feel like asking people not to hold their baby back or kiss their baby’s face/mouth. Can’t say for

Nine Ban Lola shared Instagram page, and sent them via text to friends and family — she admitted she didn't get many replies

Nine Ban Lola shared Instagram page, and sent them via text to friends and family — she admitted she didn’t get many replies

‘I didn’t want any conflict, and so I made my ‘rules’ clear from the start.’

New mum Lola shares the rule sheet she emailed to her family and friends along with her Instagram make_me_a_mummy.

However, he admitted that he did not get much response from his family and friends after sending the letter.

But she wanted to encourage other moms to know their limits and feel comfortable.

Lola's son Danielle was conceived via a sperm donor, and she said she was unwilling to take any risks with her child's health after years of becoming a mother.

Lola’s son Danielle was conceived via a sperm donor, and she said she was unwilling to take any risks with her child’s health after years of becoming a mother.

Lola while pregnant.  She said she wants to encourage other moms to know their limits and feel comfortable sharing them with other people.

Lola while pregnant. She said she wants to encourage other moms to know their limits and feel comfortable sharing them with other people.

She said: ‘I didn’t get too many answers. Some made jokes about my list, and others said they were all set to follow.

‘I bet there were some laughs behind closed doors! But we haven’t actually had visitors yet!

“We’re still just seeing our ‘core support bubble’, all too cautious for Daniels’ sake.” With only one exception where all the rules were followed, we didn’t see anyone outside our support network.’

Her letter read: ‘It’s almost time for my precious baby boy to make his grand entrance into the world – with just a few weeks to go.

Lola is going to the hospital with baby Daniel.  For those who think her rules are too strict, she says it's up to her how she keeps her child safe.

Lola going with baby Daniel…

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