Caught in the front seat of the ambulance, as her daughter was injured in the back, Kei Steinsapir took out her phone and began typing.
“Please. Please. Please,” she wrote in part. “Everyone prays for my daughter Molly. She Has been in an accident and suffered a brain trauma. “Later that day, at Ronald Reagan UCLA Medical Center, he Tweeted His message.
Her daughter, 12, was injured while riding a bicycle with a friend near the family’s home in Los Angeles. 43-year-old Ms. Steinspear said she was interested in an instrument that could get her plea as an audience as soon as possible.
“I was so helpless,” she said in an interview on Thursday. “I just wanted to broadcast to those who could lift Molly in prayer and raise me in prayer as well.”
The COVID-era rules of the hospital initially prevented her and her husband, Jonathan Steinspear, from living together on Molly’s bed. On the first day of hospitalization, Mr. Steensapyr spent days at home with his two sons, while Ms. Steensapire stayed in the intensive care unit with her daughter.
“In the hospital, there were so many hours of waiting, waiting and nothing,” she said. In the darkest moments of panic or uncertainty, she reached the Internet. “So many people shared stories of survival from traumatic brain injury,” Ms. Steinspear, who is a lawyer, as is her husband.
“Hopefully, all these strangers gave us what kept us going. If we did not have that hope, I do not know how we would be able to do what Molly and the parents did for their parents.
She Didn’t have much experience on Twitter. Like many parents, she had shared family photos in a small circle on Facebook and Instagram, but in the months before the most recent presidential election, she began spending more time on Twitter following news sources and politicians . She Hardly knew how to tweet.
Turning on her phone to express her determination, anguish and fear, it never occurred to her that she would spend 16 days among thousands of strangers around the world talking about life, death, family, religion and rituals. The conversation will start.
Alana NicholsA doctor and lawyer in Birmingham, Ala., Checked into Ms. Steensapyr every day. “As a mother, I was drawn to her vulnerability and her strengths, and how she turned Twitter into a positive tool of connection and hope,” she said.
This year, Drs. Elections, Nichols said, were the reactions to the most recent Black Lives Matter movement and the epidemic has turned the Internet into a market of anger and vitriol.
“Social media can be so toxic and a catastrophic event can put you in this place of total helplessness,” she said. “But Kaye gave us a way to help. She Told us that we can pray for her and her daughter. Our country is divided on everything that is happening right now and here you have yet another tragedy – but it has the opposite effect. “
The coronovirus epidemic has left Americans with forces of isolation and grief confrontation, with technology and social media becoming more entangled with rituals of death. COVID goodbyes are regularly said through FaceTime, with hospital staff using phones and tablets to help family members with bedside wiggles and eventual goodbyes.
Broadway actor Nick Korodo became ill with a coronavirus in March and was hospitalized for months before dying in July. Amanda Clotts, his wife, attracted a global online audience of millions who prayed, sang, overheated and eventually mourned with her. “I just wanted to share because it’s important to talk about grief, especially at a time where there are so many people suffering from loss,” she said in a video.
Later last year, model and actress Chrissy Teigen produced a national dialogue about our culture, detailing public exchanges of death and tragedy when she took to Instagram, her husband John Legend and her The children had taken pictures of Jack, who was born prematurely. and died.
Ms. Teagan wrote in an essay later that month, “I can’t tell how little I care that you hate the photo.” “How little I care that this is something you would not have done. I lived it, I chose to do it, and more than anything, these pictures are not for anyone, but people who have lived this way or are curious to know what it is like. These photos are only for those who need them. “
“Conan” writer Laurie Kilmartin tweeted live in her mother’s last days before she died of complications of coronovirus in June. Ms. Kilmartin tweeted in 2014 about her father’s deterioration and death from lung cancer, and she felt even more to do that her mother was dying, due to a combination of grief and isolation. “What’s so terrible about COVID is that you’re completely alone,” she said. “You have your phone.”
Ms. Kilmartin followed Ms. Steinsapire’s story on Twitter and understood the desire to share in real time, from her own experiences. “In a typical situation, 20 family members would move around to support her and her husband,” Ms. Kilmartin said. “I’m glad he had the internet to lay his hands on.”
Ms. Steensapir also explained to her followers why she was letting strangers go in the experience. “Writing and sharing my pain helps ease it,” he wrote. “When I am sitting here in this sterile room after hours, your messages of hope make me feel alone. Even my husband, who is very private, likes to read. “
In what became a short-form diary, Ms. Steinspear provided an unpublished account of the realities of witnessing a medical crisis marked by the endless hours of waking up of her daughter, who is then beset by a sudden disaster.
She Praised on her daughter’s doctors and nurses, worried about her two young sons, Nate and Ellie, and told the Internet about her daughter, an environmentalist and animal lover, that she chose to be a vegetarian before being in kindergarten Tha, who was devoted to Judaism and feminism (she pronounced “he / her” for God) and who dreamed of being a theater actress and a politician.
Like Ms. Teigen, Ms. Steenspear pushes against those who criticize her. “Trust me, I wish I would have been doing anything, but praying to save my daughter on Twitter,” she replied.
But mostly he called for support through prayer. God had attracted attention Melissa Jones, A mother in grasshopper grove, Ga. To read and respond to each tweet, even befriending people who were following closely.
Ms. Jones said, “She cried with the trust I had with her, who said she loved a family.” “The Internet is a terrible place right now, the Trump years were very divisive and people are very ugly for the last four years, but Molly’s spirit brings confidence and goodness in people.”
Ms. Jones had also faced the possibility of losing a child when her son was seriously injured. “My son was in a coma for 11 days and I had a surprise,” is my baby going to wake up and am I going to take them back? I knew exactly where the body is, ”he said.
On February 15, Ms. Stenispir announced that Molly had died.
“While our hearts are broken in a way it seems they can never reconcile, we are comfortable knowing that Molly’s 12 years were full of love and joy. We are going to be her parents. Very blessed, ”she wrote.
She Amid the mourning of her family, she agreed to speak to a reporter, she said, because Mollie wanted her to console the millions of Americans who have lost loved ones in the past year.
“I want to communicate to people that we respect everyone who is sad and want to share with them the light and love shown to Molly,” she said.