- The hashtag #weaponizedincompetence is being used to describe how men ‘play the unknown card’ when it comes to helping out at home
- A TikTok video shows a woman writing down a detailed plan for her partner before a trip to the supermarket – including pictures of the products she wants
- Thousands of women have said they relate to the hashtag, with many saying they have abandoned a partner who shy away from helping with household chores
Women who say that their partners pretend to be ignorant about household chores, cooking and taking care of their children are taking their anger out on social media.
The hashtag #weaponizedincompetence, which first emerged among middle nerds, has gained new momentum on TikTok, as women mostly in the US posted videos showing their male partners getting frustrated when it comes to helping out at home. Let’s pretend
In a video posted by @adamxmelinda, a woman is writing a detailed plan for her partner before a trip to the supermarket, and it includes pictures of grocery items to help her. She captions it: ‘When I have to send my husband to the store.’
It has been viewed nearly 3 million times and many have been disappointed with the effort required by the woman to obtain food purchases without doing it herself.
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playing dumb? A TikTok video of @Leighbeez shows her outline as a shopping map for her male partner – including photos of products to help her. Videos tagged with the hashtag #weaponizedincompetence have risen in popularity as agitated partners rave about their men saying they don’t know how to do household chores.
In another video, a mother of young children is seen sharing a clip of her partner, getting down after an early morning let-in and a long shower.
A video tour of a bathroom where the floor is covered with toys, a sink full of dyed water and an overflowing pedal bin has no comments, only the hashtag #weaponizedincompence
Gender experts say ‘demonstrative inefficiency’ is a strategy often implemented by men to ensure that domestic labor is not evenly divided.
Last month, after a shopping list video surfaced, Francine M., a professor of psychology at Mount Holyoke College in Massachusetts, emerita Francine M. the diction told USA Today: ‘Incompetence has its rewards. This allows men to justify a gender-based distribution of domestic labor.’
Another video posted by @thatdarchat shows a father trying to hand back a crying baby as his partner exits the shower and has been viewed 5.7 million times.
One commenter posted: ‘He’s not a father. He is another child’ while another said: ‘What exactly is meant by a male partner who cannot and will not parent his child? I would rather be a single mom than that.
The star of the video tells her followers: ‘Every time you deliberately do a half-a**ed s*****, they lose faith in you and they end up offending the s*** of you. is going.’
In another clip, a father who tries to hand back a crying baby as his partner leaves the shower has garnered 5.7 million views.
TikToker @thatdarnchat commented on a video of a man handing his wife back crying as she came out of the shower: ‘Every time you deliberately do half-a**ed s*****, So they lose faith in you.’
A video tour of a bathroom where the floor is covered with toys, a sink full of dyed water and an overflowing paddle bin has no commentary, just the hashtag #weaponizedincompetence glossed over it.
There are thousands of comments left on the videos of women who claim they are in a similar situation, or at least they were until they turned to the divorce courts over the matter.
One says she told her husband: ‘The moment you make me feel like I don’t need you, or you don’t make my life easier, then I mentally check.’
Another wrote: ‘My ex told me I didn’t do his laundry properly…I’ll never do it again. problem solved.’
‘How has this man ever been alone?’ another pair.
Others claim that they have simply resigned themselves to the fact that it is easier and less stressful to do tasks by themselves – and that their own peers can do things they couldn’t.
One wrote: ‘My husband can’t cook for his existence. But he knows a lot of things that I don’t know how to do. He’s screwing our drywall today. Balance.’