Woman whose new ‘clever and kind’ boyfriend is extremely obese is told she should DUMP him over his size – after she reveals they couldn’t have sex due to ‘buried penis syndrome’ 

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  • UK woman worried about her new partner’s obesity
  • Said they didn’t have sex because weight affected the ‘mechanics of sex’
  • Mumsnet users were torn, most advised her to end the relationship

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A woman was asked to break up with her ‘smart and kind’ boyfriend over her size after she revealed she was extremely obese and was struggling to have sex for the first time.

British woman, in her mid-30s, taken to parenting forum mumsnet To explain that he is a ‘really great man’, but that he has several minor health conditions and that his weight has affected the ‘mechanics of sex’.

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He said he appears to have ‘buried penis syndrome’, a medical condition in which skin and fat obscure a normal-sized penis, making it smaller or less visible.

As she seeks to have children in the future with a partner who is taking care of their health, she wondered whether it was inappropriate to continue dating her, hoping that would change.

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Responses to the post were divided, Some advised her to end the relationship because of her dream of becoming a mother, while others argued Obesity shouldn’t be a deal breaker.

An anonymous UK woman has sparked a debate about having a relationship with a partner unable to have physical intimacy because of her weight (file image)

Posting on mumsnet, the woman explained that she was unable to have sex with her partner, who has several minor ailments, as her weight made her a struggle.

Posting on mumsnet, the woman explained that she was unable to have sex with her partner, who has several minor ailments, as her weight made her a struggle.

In the initial post, the woman revealed that she had been dating for a while to find a partner to have kids – but she couldn’t deny the ‘real chemistry’ she had with her current partner.

While she described her as ‘incredibly clever, kind, accomplished, interesting, hot and sexy’, she added that she is ‘just not a few stones’ from her BMI range.

The woman in question further stated that her weight, which she did not disclose, as well as how her minor ailments affected the ‘mechanics of sex’.

She continued: ‘We had a hard time doing it and it didn’t happen in the end. Maybe I realized this could be an issue, I guess.

‘It has nothing to do with attractiveness, I just think she’s gorgeous and I’m not fat at all. I have a lot of drug related weight struggles and at one time was a size 18-20. I still have something to lose.’

She clarified that she is ‘not looking for the gym reputable type’, but is concerned about mobility, adding: ‘It would just be ideal if she was a healthy weight because that’s in my mind long term and I don’t know. Keep watching it keeping in mind whether it is appropriate or not.

Woman wrote a series of follow-up posts revealing that her partner seems to have suppressed penis syndrome

Woman wrote a series of follow-up posts revealing that her partner seems to have suppressed penis syndrome

Multiple responses to the post advised the woman not to continue the relationship and argued that her partner should focus on trying to lose the extra weight rather than dating.

One wrote, ‘If he’s so fat he’s unable to have sex it’s really a non-starter. ‘She’ll know it’s her weight that causes her inability to have sex and yet she hasn’t told anything to lose weight or do…’

He advised that ‘there’s no easy way to bring this up’ so suggested telling them that the relationship ‘really not working out’.

Another similar commented: ‘I’m surprised he’s dating and not taking the time to take care of himself and sort his s***. Why is he waiting for someone else to solve his problems? Why is he overweight? Does he also have mental health issues?

‘We all have health issues as we get older – but it’s something else – it’s affecting his ability to love/sex life and he doesn’t seem bothered by it?’

A third addition: ‘I certainly would not like a person who is very overweight and who has not tried to lose weight at all, and who should know that it can cause a lot of problems in the future. habits, such as with health problems and sex and hustle etc.

A stream of reactions to the post advised the woman to end the relationship (pictured)

A stream of reactions to the post advised the woman to end the relationship (pictured)

However, others advised the woman to devote more time to the relationship – saying that the problem with her partner’s weight may not be permanent.

One wrote, ‘I don’t agree with everyone asking you to cut your losses at this stage.’ ‘You’re still in a very early stage. You have no way of knowing if this is a permanent condition or, as you say, linked to his recent difficult times.

‘Maybe he slipped into unhealthy habits that could easily have been broken. You say you still have something to lose, so maybe (if it becomes more serious) you both can adopt a healthier lifestyle – going for long walks, eating healthy etc.’

The man advised the woman to give it more time and see how it develops as she feels’otherwise correct’ – it would be a shame to add that ‘don’t give it a chance.’

Another wrote: ‘I think you are overthinking it. Just take it a week at a time and see how your relationship progresses. If you like someone, you like him and that’s what matters. I will go with the flow and enjoy it!

A man’s size is neither here nor for me… Actually I love a man’s big bear.’

Others told the woman that she should see how the relationship goes because her partner's weight issues may go away.

Others told the woman that she should see how the relationship goes because her partner’s weight issues may go away.

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